Divorce Sucks by Mary Jo Eustace

Author:Mary Jo Eustace
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: divorce, celebrity, hollywood, marriage, irreconcilable differences, Mary Jo Eustace, Dean McDermott, Tori Spelling, breakups
Publisher: F+W Publications, Inc.
Published: 2009-07-15T00:00:00+00:00

Endorphins and Wine: A User’s Guide to a Long and Healthy Relationship

At this point in the game you’re probably experiencing a little battle fatigue. The last time you had a release, natural or otherwise, was when you signed your rights away to the family home. Whether stress has caused you to lose a ton of weight or acquire a pound or two, your body is just plain worn out from the stress and intensity of the divorce experience. You might be looking a wee bit haggard and a tad bit stressed, but that’s to be expected. Or, you may look instantly ten years younger and be fifteen pounds lighter right out of the gate. You may see this phenomenon occur in the occasional widow. As a matter of fact, I sat beside one of those hot young widows at a New Year’s Eve party shortly after my divorce. All night I kept thinking that this time last year we both had husbands and now we don’t — even though her circumstances were much more tragic. She seemed fairly calm and had a really attentive and handsome date. I couldn’t help but stare and be fascinated by her. Finally she just looked at me and said, “I bet you wish you were me.” And I did. I was jealous of the fact that she could start again without having to answer to anybody. I sometimes wonder if the finality of that situation is preferable to the endless challenges of dealing with your very much alive and irritating ex-husband?

Endorphins are a good way to get back in touch with the physical and mental well-being of our bodies. Truly amazing things, endorphins are triggered by neurotransmitters in the brain that release a chemical when encountered with situations involving heightened emotions or physical pain. People describe an “endorphin rush” as a feeling of well-being and calm that overtakes their bodies when the hormones are released. Endorphins can be stimulated by many things. Of course, one of the most well known ways is through sex. But don’t panic — there are other ways, too. Exercise, eating chili peppers, chocolate, orgasms (remember those?), fear, heightened emotions, and even simply thinking positive thoughts can bring on an endorphin rush. We can actually trick our bodies into physically feeling good by focusing on the positive. Just imagine if you took a walk and had a bite of chocolate. It might push you over the edge.

The point here is that our bodies and minds have an amazing ability to heal, and we should start to take advantage of that. As simple as it may sound, there are things you can do that will help you feel better and don’t require a whole lot of effort. Start with a massage. Human contact is important and having your body touched by someone (well, other than yourself) is a big first step. Cliché as it may seem, even taking a walk or sharing a laugh with a friend can make you feel better.

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